I've slept with my bestfriend 3 times.Once before his girlfriend & twice since.He's been with her 1 1/2 years.I've always been jealous of her she isn't good for him,completely dominates him.When she's around he's never allowed out with his friends,none of us get to see him,I don't get to talk to him & it's hard because we are the very best of friends,there's no one who understands me like him,there's no one I trust more.Before her we did everything together.Our first time changed everything,suddenly everything clicked,I knew I wanted us to be together.Last night we went out for my birthday meal,I descided to win him back.I dressed up beautifully & looked stunning & totally knocked his socks off.Everything went perfectly but at the crucial moment I couldn't go through with it.When we have our tristes he always starts it,I couldn't face seducing anyone.Whatever I think of her no one deserves that.I love him but I'm not a bad person,I can't hurt her.I told him it had to be all or nothing.

I have a boyfriend of eight years now and two beautiful children who I absolutely adore and love but my boyfriend is very pyhsically and mentally abusive and because of that I have been seeing someone who makes me feel good about mself for like 5 years, I cannot let go of my kids dad for some weird reason though he treats me like a piece of crap. This other person would give me the world and excepts the fact I have children that are not his. I am afraid to leave my kids dad because I know he will snap, I have had restraining orders and all that and i get lonely and miss him and drop the orders, he is good to the kids so when we don't talk for a while the kids will say I wanna see my Dad but i can only do it through his mom because if we are not together we are not civil. His mom even throws me atitude knowing her son has beat me up plenty of times. I love this other person so much but he's getting tired of waiting, I never asked him to but he loves me too. What am I to do? I love you!!

What would you do, honestly??? On-line dating steps into reality. So, I've been chatting w/ this guy online. We live in the same city, know of some of the same people, but we've never met. I've NEVER been one to believe that you could catch feelings for someone you've never met in person. However, I find myself drawn to this man, we talk on the phone a few times every now, send text msgs. back & forth & spend countless amounts of time in instant msgs. I've always been such a skeptic of folks falling for someone, because you never really know the real person until you spend time with them. In this case, I find myself being a chicken, because I think I don't want to end up in something, attracted to someone & find out he's not who he protrays himself to be. All last week I had a terrible cold & he would call to check on me & see if I needed anything, which was thoughtful of him. My dilema lies in the fact that I want to meet him, but then a small part of me is unsure. Yes, we've agreed to meet, b/c we live so close & I feel relatively comfortable with him even though I don't know him yet. I mean I've only known him for about 2 wks now & some say just go out with him. He's already told me he's into me (I'm an enlightened woman, I do know the game & that some will tell you what they think you want to hear to get some). It's funny, I'm into him too, this is the 1st time I've caught feelings for someone I've never physically met yet. I mean what if the fantasy is better than the reality? Well, he wanted to meet me yesterday & I told him I was tired & that my congestion wasn't completely gone, which was the truth. Today, I told him I had stuff to do.

I got together with a girl before xmas break (J), went home to family and got together with another girl. When I came back I resumed relations with the first girl and I am starting a relationship with another girl. I am a heartbroken fool who's wife left him 18months ago... my exgirlfriend (after the wife) desperately wants me back and I am tempted to (and have since the initial breakup) sleep with her although it wouldn't work out... plus i have been sleeping with a girl casually who i work with... (I use protection)... I mean it is all fine and dandy when I am picking up the girl for the first time and i can kid myself that this might be the real deal but then it becomes obvious i am just yanking my own chain. glorified masterbation. i need time before i can start a relationship the exg.f. taught me that but i am busy and need to continuously build relationships in order to keep getting laid steady. anythoughts advice etc. in particular...

i got engaged 2 days ago to the most amazing person i have ever met. the only problem is, i don't think he's ready.he acts wierd whenever somebody asks about the ring or if i try to talk about it.i've asked him upfront but he changes the subject.

iam a 16 year old, and i have had only two girlfriends, those relationships didnt last and they turned out to be two of my best friends. I found this girl at school that i really, really like, i have never felt this way about someone, i get neverous sometimes around girls that i like, what should i do to take my relationship further withought it turning out that she just wants to be my friend.

my rants & pet peeves... I hate idiots that talk on their cell phones while driving (it annoys me to no end & I wonder if they've ever heard of the hands-free device...smh) & I will get rude with them if they are driving poorly...I'll drive up & flip them the bird & give them a really evil look. I hate people who stare, I was always taught that it was rude & same thing applies, I will give them an evil look or if they piss me off, I'll flip them the bird. I hate people who drive 10 miles under the speed limit in good weather. I hate people who rubberneck (nosey bastards!) You get enough nosey people to slow down & stare & they will back up traffic...argh! I hate loud people that are talking and not saying anything of importance, SHUT the f*ck up loud losers! I hate insecure people or needy people...argh! That's all for now...I will have more at another time.

The biggest thing in my life that is bringing me down is my relationship with my husband. He is a great person when he wants to be but there are a lot of times when he is just unkind. His reactions to normal things that happen in a day seem totally out of proportion to me. He gets angry over the stupidest things alot and just doesn't understand simple generosity to people. He is immature and doesn't act like a grown adult sometimes and it really bothers me and makes me wonder about my future. I'm not perfect but it means a lot to me to be kind to people and care about what's going on in the world around me and this just doesn't click with him. I just don't feel like he is progressing as a human being and learning from his mistakes. He never thinks he does anything wrong and that his actions are always justifiable. I feel like I am fighting a losing battle everyday. I am 26 years old and want to enjoy life together, not just argue my way through it. Help.