Hi..recently my friend came to visit me at university..he kept telling me not to tell his girlfriend, anyway later on that night, me my friend and some of my other new mates from uni went to a bar...my mate got really drunk and came back to my room...he was on the floor but kept saying he couldn't sleep...i had a few but i wasn't drunk and without thinking i told him he could get in my bed...which he did without hesatation...nothing happened and later on he got out of the bed and went to sleep on the floor.. is it right that i should feel so bad?

(Female, 22, New Zealand) I currently am studying medicine at university, and am unable to afford to pay rent. Outside the foodbank one night I met a man who offfered me accomodation for no money - the catch, I live at his home, and provide sexual services to him. He is really good, and expects me to do nothing else - he cleans the house, he normally does the cooking and laundry although I try to help where I can, and he is really good when it comes to my workload and exams. He pays for my oral contraception, and even gives me a clothing and study allowance. I am expected to tell people that I am boarding with him, and do house and office cleaning for him. He is not a bad sort, has an OK body and personality. I'm not sure why he did this,as I am sure there are plenty of single woman out there that would love him. While I don't love him, I am kind of neutral with the arrangement - I am not overjoyed, but I amnot disgruntled. Confused and deluded maybe.

I was in a long-term relationship until about 3 months ago. We were together for a total of almost 7 years (2 solid bf/gf, then 2 on/off seeing other people, then 2.5ish solid bf/gf again). There were a ton of reasons why we broke up, but the one I obsess over is that he wanted to see if I'm really the one by dating other people (guy translation: wants to fuck more people before settling down). After about two months of being broken up, he claims to be "casually" seeing someone else. This new girl was someone he dated during our on/off period. He also slept with someone else during that time- so there was me, the girl he slept with, and this new/old girl that he played at the same time. He got HPV (a STD) from the girl he slept with. I wonder if this new/old girl knows that he was seeing two other girls and got a STD from one of them. The crazy Ex-girlfriend in me wants to post it on her myspace, but the sensible, "dying-to-move-on" chick inside just wants to leave it alone.

i have to push her. neither one of us wants a relationship, yet i find myself falling for her. so i call, and text and IM, receiving no response i cut her off completely thinking i can make her come to me. she doesnt even see our relationship in that light. she sees us solely as friends w/ benefits. i wish i could relax and not care so much but its against my nature i suppose. so, she'll call when she wants to hang out but she doesnt obsess over me just because i'm not there like i do about her. i wish i could change how i feel about her, i wish she liked me as much as i like her. lame, huh? i dont even want something serious, im just so damned possessive! feels good to get it off my chest at least.

I'm thinking of getting a tattoo and I am just wondering if anyone has any tips on either where to get one or what to get so that I won't regret it. I was thinking of getting one on my back but not something really big. Perhaps something tribal but I'm still undecided! If anyone has any input I would really appreciate it, even some good websites to check for designs!!! thanks

Hey! so this is the story.. I met this boy named Ed.... Re...., he goes to a university right next to my work.. so once he came by out of nothing introducing himself very kindly with no particular reason.. so as days went by I started to like this boy, he's really hot but sometimes he'll drop by to ask how I am and all that and other days he won't even look back at me.. people says he likes me cos the way he introduced himself and the without-reason-kindness but Im just confused.. lately I've been thinking of asking him out on a date but I don't know how.. IM SHY!! that's the worst!! can someone tell me what to do?? please!!??

My life is totally screwed. You see, two weeks ago a teacher at my school was murdered and my hair was found at the scene. I had no idea how my hair got there and I swear on my life I didn't kill this teacher. I was sure that someone must've been setting me up! My friends and my girlfriend believed me and so did my principle but my vice principle and everyone else was convinced it was me but the police haven't done anything because there's no further evidence to prove it was me. On the last day of school, I walked up to class and I saw my best friend and my girlfriend standing over a dead teacher's body with a knife covered in blood in my best friend's hand. I ran out of the class and they came after me but they never found me. I'm convinced that they killed the other teacher and set me up for it, but I've known these people for twelve years! Is it possible? ANyway, I'm on my way to Canada to live with my dad cos my mom died but should I leave without talking to my friends first?

I was just browsing the net, and I found this forum, so I signed up. It seems like there are a lot of angry people out there, so now I don't feel so isolated in the world. Guess it's better to get your anger out in writing than in a fight. The truth is I wish my life were different... as do most people. I have a two-year old boy, who I love more than anything in the world, and an asshole husband I wish would walk over a landmine. He calls me an unambitious loser thinking that will motivate me to get a full-time job. I just graduated from college in May and have been working part-time ever since. I was going to go to Grad school in fall, but my Mom is having lots of problems so I've delayed that so I can help her out. The truth is I can't wait to get a good enough job so I can get rid of him. It's awful. I know there are two sides to every story, and I really do/did (I don't know anymore) love him. But he treats me like shit. I had enough abuse as a child. It's over. Ass.