54 year old female and what a youngen I used to be and still am. 33 years ago I was in a very abusive marriage. After the last fight, I finally had to get even with him. I had been a punching bag for way too long. I walked over to my girlfriends house late one night. My friend called my (Now X- husband) and told him I was pregnant and was losing the baby as we spoke. She then took a bottle of red Kool-aid and poured it in the toilet. When he got there, she took him to the bathroom and showed him. He swooped me up in his arms and carried me to the car. The abuse still didn't stop. So..... I removed his Drivers License from his wallet, called the Police and reported the vehicle stolen. Needless to say, I left the jerk and live happily ever after.

Ive been seperated from my husband for over two years now, and about 3 months ago I caught up with an old male (i am female 28yr) friend of mine. This old friend of mine (lets call him Tom) is also seperated from his wife. They have only been seperated for 5 months, but still live in the house, as they have not finalised the sale of the house yet. They do however sleep in seperate rooms. Tom and I have known eachother for years, since we first started in high school, and have always been very close, even when we were out of touch. Anyway me an Tom went out the other night, got very drunk, and ended up back at his place. We are not romanticly involved and never have been, its purely a friendship. So we went upstairs and jumped into bed. I kept all of my clothes on, jeans and all, while he put his pj's on. Anyway we'd just laid down when his wife came in turned on the light and started going bananas. Calling me an him names, telling us to get out. I feel so bad, even tho nuffin happened.

I'm a 20 year old virgin, who has never had a boyfriend. I haven't even gotten to kissing. It's not that I'm not attractive or anything--I get plenty of guys trying to get my number every day. I just have a problem with getting close to guys. I judge myself before the guy judges me, and I cut it off. I try not to get too close, probably afraid that the relationship will turn into something else. I've had many experiences before where I was attracted to my guy friends, and they knew it, but never made any move. I'm always seen as one of the guys for some reason, and I'm definately not a Tom Boy. I hate that!!

I enjoy casual sex. I've slept with 6 co-workers at my last two jobs. Alcohol is always invoved. As soon as they want more, I flake out on them. I use men like I used to let them use me, and I completely enjoy it.

I've had a BF now for 2 months, he's told me he love me & I said it back, but I don't think I meant it. As if thats not bad enough, I also have a major crush on my English teacher, who is a woman. I don't think I'm a lesbian, but for nearly two years now I havn't been able to get her out of my mind and I will try anything to talk to her and get her to notice me. Its almost becomming an obsession and I don't know what to do! I can't tell anyone because its embarsassing, I don't want people to think I'm crazy!

I cheated on my GF of 9 months with a guy while I was drunk. The fact that I cheated is bad enough, but with a guy?? The stigma I and most of society place on this is not very good... How could I or she continue in the relasionship if she knew this?? At the same time i need to feel our relasionship is real...How could the looks of adoration and her telling me she loves me be real when she doesn't know about what happened?? Do I eat the guilt and feelings of fakeness, or do I tell her and risk losing her/feeling doubly shameful because she knows about the fact i was with a guy. I don't consider myself gay or even bi if that's what you're thinking. When I see women I have a strong physiological and mental attraction. I feel zero lust or attraction towards men. I was drunk and I think it was the dirtiness of the thing that drew me to it. What is everybody's advice about how I can best handle this situation??

Here I am, a black female who finds herself extremely attracted to white guys. Don't get me wrong, I like black guys too, just not on the same level. I like preppy looking guys with a little urban splash. It's becoming slightly more common with black guys, and you already see it a lot with white guys. I've seen white guys with that style for years. I'm just not that much into the whole thuggish look, no matter what race the person is. Hearing this, people would probably assume that I'm what some people like to call "white washed" or and "oreo", but I'm not. I'm from Brooklyn, born and raised around black people. I'm soft-spoken, but I don't "talk white" whatever that means.

I have feelings, very strong feelings for one of my best friends. Me and her hang out a lot, almost everyday. We always text each other. Last night, when I was drunk I got a little kiss on the lips outta her. I think I asked for it. Anyhow, I don't really know what to do. I am just kinda waiting to see if she'll show some more emotion towards me. Or, should I just go ahead and tell her? I honestly don't know what to do. Sometimes I think she has feelings, then in an hour I thinking "What the hell was I thinking?" It's very frustrating.