i am in love with an older man. i don't know how old he is but i am 15 and i love him more than anything in this world. he goes to my church so i see him 3 times a week. i want to tell him how i feel, but i am afraid of getting hurt. but then if i don't tell him, something could happen to him and then i'd never be able to tell him the truth. what do i do? i want him to know so bad. i want to be with him, but am afraid that he may not feel the same way about me and i really don't want to get hurt. any advice would be appreciated. and if your answer is YES TELL HIM then my next question is how in the world do i tell him??? letter? or to his face? if letter then how do i give it to him. and if to his face, how do i do that, cuz i am SHY!!!! i love this man more than i understand. i'd die for him to stay alive and live out the rest of his life. i don't judge him by what he's done in the past. please help me with this problem. i am so confused and need some adivce. thanks!

I'm 21, i do well at uni, i'm healthy, i have no money problems, i have a girlfriend, i have great friends, my family are suportive and nice people, i love my part time job and my life is virtually stress free. But every night i lie awake wishing i was 14 again and sometimes i even cry when i realise i'll never be a teenager again and never get to go to my secondary school again. I remember summer nights playing basketball clicmbing trees and skateboarding my time away. I just secured myself a job for next year when i leave university. It scares the shit out of me. A full time career is what grown ups have but i'm still 14 in my head. i feel like a fraud. I've given some serious thought to training as a teacher just so i can immerse myself in a school environment and see kids as happy as i was. I think i'm in the midst of a mid life crisis that started when i turned 20 and is now a year old.

HI.My Boyfriend of 7months sometimes asks me bout past sexual experiences. I recently lied to him bout a certain guy I slept with in the past. I then told him the truth. He was very dissapointed that I lied. I've slept with 10 guys before him & I told him he is the 7th one. Will he think of me as a slut if I tell him the truth Or should I just leave the past where it belongs?

If I had a chance, I'd nail my sister. My lover and I talk about it all the time. Going to visit her. Getting her drunk enough to flirt. And then seducing her so intensely, so intimately, that she'd have no alternative but to love our attentions.

I tried making up with the woman who is spreading lies about me. She lied to my face and pretended that she didn't hate me and the things she's been saying are true. So far the lies include... my boyfriend dumping me because I slept around (he never had a problem with it), me telling this girl with low self esteem that I cut myself because she flirts with people (wtf??), me spreading shit about my friend in the bottom flat (I really like her and have never said anything bad!), me seducing my Christian friend who doesn't believe in sex before marriage, then leaving him, so he's screwed up, AND boasting that I was going to do it beforehand (never even kissed the guy!), me screwing another Christian friend who doesn't beleive in SBM, me hurting another girl (dunno how im sposed to have done that yet).. the list goes on. People believe them. I'm now hated by a lot of people. The atmosphere changes when I walk into a room. I hate this.

I have a little problem nothing to big just im in love with a person and i dont see her so much but when i do i just get more in love with her everytime.. should i tell her this or just leave it and hope it goes its already been almost a year that im in love with her.. see if i tell her she cant do anything with it cause she teaches stuff so if she would find out ill be moved out of the class.. or shell lose her job if she feels the same... i just have no idea what to do about it.. i cant stop feeling this way but sometimes she says things that make me wonder if she doesnt feel the same.. what can i do ... ??

Thanks for the advice. Now just to make it clear - he only does it when i ask him simple questions. If we are having a conversation - he is all ears - sometimes he talks more than I do! I do see my future with him. He isnt trying to be mean when he does it. He is a very laid back and patient person. So should i still be upset?

My boyfriend is what you would call a "selective listener". For instance, when his mother asks him something, he doesnt answer - so she has to ask him 100 more times. He does this to me as well. And it drives me crazy. When he doesnt answer me right away, I get mad - and keep asking. And when I keep asking - he gets mad, because I am "nagging" him. This starts a lot of fights with us. I think he should just answer me. And he thinks I should be patient. Keep in mind the questions are (9 times out of 10) simple "yes" or "no" answers.